Beautiful Poem

I know how you feel; I have felt that way too;
But I can promise, it’s a feeling you’ll rue.

Someday you will long to feel safe and secure
And think of these “feelings” as something to cure.

The seeds you are planting will grow to be weeds,
Blooming in the fertile soil of your needs.

Redemption will come, but you won’t be the same;
Years will be needed to restore your good name.

And you will in vain wish the moment away
When you let your feelings lead you astray.

It feels inexorable as “need” pushes you:
But a need is not comparable to love that is true.

It’s a hard thing to fight; I’ve been tempted too;
And believe me, I have sympathy for you;

So I offer you my prayers–you’ll need them I know.

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When a bride realizes that all of the stress involved in planning her wedding is finally catching up to her, she can sometimes feel ready to rip off her veil and start tearing her hair out. A certain point arrives when her mother's voice on the phone, asking whether she prefers a pale blue or muted pink shade of napkin holder, will send her into a screeching fit.

Don't let what's supposed to be the best day of your life turn into a logistical nightmare that gives you a permanent case of high blood pressure; hire a wedding planner!

A wedding planner can help with so many details that brides don't want to even think about; what follows is just a brief list of concerns that a wedding planner can at least keep track of for you, if not decide completely on your behalf (this can be a very good thing):

o What types of cakes are you interested in? What types of cakes are even available? Do you want something traditional, or are you open to the possibility of something different?

o Would an indoor or outdoor ceremony be more suitable / enjoyable? What types of seating arrangements can or should be used in an outdoor setting?

o Who would the planner recommend as an experienced photographer / videographer? Will you and the groom need to wear microphones to be heard? If so, how visible will they be?

o Does your planner have recommendations for unique wedding favors that will leave a memorable impression on your guests?

o Who will handle the task of moving the gifts from your reception table to a safe location?

o Is the DJ / band familiar with your musical preferences? Do they know which songs you don't want to hear at your wedding?

o Will your close friends and family be sitting closer to the front than the other guests?

o Is there an event that's closely scheduled ahead of or behind your wedding that could possibly cause a problem with your event's time-frame?

For all these reasons and more, it's worth considering the help of a professional wedding planner. Anything that can keep your stress levels under control during your nuptials is worth the expense; so many brides can't even enjoy their weddings because they feel that they have to be personally responsible for every level of detail. Relax and enjoy your day for what it is - your wedding day, not your micro-managing day!

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Secret to successful Marriage

1. Love/Commitment. At its core, love is a decision to be committed to another person. It is far more than a fleeting emotion as portrayed on television, the big screen, and romance novels. Feelings come and go, but a true decision to be committed lasts forever – and that is what defines true love. It is a decision to be committed through the ups and the downs, the good and the bad. When things are going well, commitment is easy. But true love is displayed by remaining committed even through the trials of life.

2. Time. Relationships don’t work without time investment. Never have, never will. Any successful relationship requires intentional, quality time together. And quality time rarely happens when quantity time is absent. The relationship with your spouse should be the most intimate and deep relationship you have. Therefore, it is going to require more time than any other relationship. If possible, set aside time each day for your spouse. And a date-night once in awhile wouldn’t hurt either

3. Humility. We all have weaknesses and relationships always reveal these faults quicker than anything else on earth. An essential building block of a healthy marriage is the ability to admit that you are not perfect, that you will make mistakes, and that you will need forgiveness. Holding an attitude of superiority over your partner will bring about resentment and will prevent your relationship from moving forward. If you struggle in this area, grab a pencil and quickly write down three things that your partner does better than you – that simple exercise should help you stay humble. Repeat as often as necessary.

4. Patience/Forgiveness. Because no one is perfect (see #3), patience and forgiveness will always be required in a marriage relationship. Successful marriage partners learn to show unending patience and forgiveness to their partner. They humbly admit their own faults and do not expect perfection from their partner. They do not bring up past errors in an effort to hold their partner hostage. And they do not seek to make amends or get revenge when mistakes occur. If you are holding onto a past hurt from your partner, forgive him or her. It will set your heart and relationship free.

5. Sexual Faithfulness. Sexual faithfulness in marriage includes more than just our bodies. It also includes our eyes, mind, heart, and soul. When we devote our minds to sexual fantasies about another person, we sacrifice sexual faithfulness to our spouse. When we offer moments of emotional intimacies to another, we sacrifice sexual faithfulness to our spouse. Guard your sexuality daily and devote it entirely to your spouse. Sexual faithfulness requires self-discipline and an awareness of the consequences. Refuse to put anything in front of your eyes, body, or heart that would compromise your faithfulness.

6. Honesty and Trust. Honesty and trust become the foundation for everything healthy in a marriage. But unlike most of the other essentials on this list, trust takes time. You can become selfless, committed, or patient in a moment, but trust always takes time. Trust is only built after weeks, months, and years of being who you say you are and doing what you say you’ll do. It takes time, so start now… and if you need to rebuild trust in your relationship, you’ll need to work even harder.

7. Selflessness. Although it will never show up on any survey, more marriages are broken up by selfishness than any other reason. Surveys blame it on finances, lack of commitment, infidelity, or incompatibility, but the root cause for most of these reasons is selfishness. A selfish person is committed only to himself or herself, shows little patience, and never learns how to be a successful spouse. Give your hopes, dreams, and life to your partner. And begin to live life together.

8. Communication. Successful marriage partners communicate as much as possible. They certainly discuss kids’ schedules, grocery lists, and utility bills. But they don’t stop there. They also communicate hopes, dreams, fears, and anxieties. They don’t just discuss the changes that are taking place in the kid’s life, they also discuss the changes that are taking place in their own hearts and souls. This essential key cannot be overlooked because honest, forthright communication becomes the foundation for so many other things on this list: commitment, patience, and trust… just to name a few.This is a simple call to value our marriages, treat them with great care, and invest into them daily. Accomplishing the items listed above will always require nearly every bit of yourself… but it so worth it. After all, a successful marriage is far more valuable than most of temporal things we chase after with our lives. And will always last longer.

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