Marriage is not a word that should be taken lightly, yet it is on a daily basis. But what do you do when your marriage is starting to fall apart, when everything you want is slowly slipping away?
You rescue it.
1) Rescuing the Relationship
To save your relationship, you must first figure out what is causing it to fall apart. Do you and your spouse talk about things, or are you too busy working and raising your family to discuss what s going on?
Have you gone on a date in the last six months? Do you fight and argue all the time, or has one of you cheated on the other?
What is causing the relationship to break down? Let s face it; you don t just wake up one morning and say, I think I d like a divorce today.
In order to figure out what s going (or gone) wrong in your relationship, you need to take a step back from your feelings to observe what is going on.
If you fight frequently, write down the things you fight about. Write down the amount of time you ve spent together in the last few days, and write down what you were doing when you weren t spending time together.
You will want to get everything straight in your head before you start to talk to your spouse about your problems and what you think might be damaging your relationship.
2) Talking - It Is Not Overrated
After you have gathered your information, approach your spouse. Make sure you go into the discussion calmly and rationally. You also want to make sure that you re not accosting or accusing, but rather asking and questioning.
If you go into the talk too aggressively, you are going to turn them off and nothing will get answered or resolved. Make sure you lay everything out on the table, from the things that are bothering you to the things that you wish you did more of together.
Explain that you want to know how your spouse is feeling, and that you care about where they want the relationship to go.
3) Scheduling
If you have a busy schedule, you may want to make an appointment to have this discussion. Actually, making a schedule for the two of you on a weekly basis is an excellent idea.
All parents know that children thrive on routine, which is why they have a time to wake up, a time to eat, and a time to go to bed. Relationships thrive on a somewhat of a timed schedule, as well.
For instance, I have a friend whose husband and herself spend every Saturday night together. They have young children, so most of the time they stay in instead of going out. They will rent a movie and either get take-out or some quick meal they can throw together once the kids have gone to bed.
They would leave the lights on in the living room long enough to eat their meal, and then, once that s done, they put the dishes in the sink (they will still be there the next day, so there s no reason to spoil the mood by doing them), turn the lights off and snuggle together to watch the rest of the movie.
They don t talk about anything except the movie, and make sure that they are touching each other as much as we can.
It is not un-romantic to schedule time to be with your spouse. Make sure that you get some time together, whether it s going out together, or staying in watching a movie. Sometimes you can pull out a board game, add some alcohol, and have a great night being silly together.
As you get along in your relationship, you come to take each other for granted. Spending fun, relaxing time together is one great way to get your relationship back on track.
If you re thinking about filing for divorce because you can t stand the fighting anymore, stop. Think about why you are fighting, and try to put yourself in your partner s shoes.
When you love each other and put a little work into it, marriages really can last forever.

                            Bollywood Baraat 2012 & 13

As the world was feared to draw to a close in 2012, going by the doomsday prophecy, perhaps our stars did not want to take any chance and the year 2012 saw the hottest stars solemnize their long time courtships one after another. Whether it’s Saif Ali Khan-Kareena Kapoor or Riteish Deshmukh-Genelia D’Souza the tinsel town was abuzz with the glam couples take the leap into licensed coupledom.  

Let’s have a look at the series of high profile celebrity weddings of 2012 as our reel-life romancer walk down the aisle for real.

The superstar ‘nawabi’ couple, fondly called ‘Saifeena’ had reams of print and hours of television coverage devoted to their five years long courtship before they tied knot on Oct. 16. Kareena fell for Saif when he proposed to her on the sets of Vishal Bhardwaj’s Omkara in 2005. Disturbed from her troubled previous relationship with young Shahid Kapoor, Kareena found solace in the company of a more ‘mature’ Saif. The wedding was a five-day extravaganza and the reception was graced by several B-town personalities like Shahrukh Khan and his wife Gauri, Ranbir Kapoor, Malaika Arora Khan, Amrita Arora and designer Manish Malhotra.

The next grand Bollywood wedding of 2012 took place with Genelia and Riteish Deshmukh saying 'I do' on February 3. One of the most famous new faces in the bollywood- Genelia, met Ritesh- the son of Congress minister Vilasrao, for the first time on the sets of "Tujhe Meri Kasam" and dated for almost eight years before solemnizing their relationship in both Maharashtrian and Christian style wedding. The fabulous wedding celebration was attended by who's who from all walks of life.

Ooh la la ! The gorgeous and versatile Vidya Balan finally got hitched to the UTV CEO -Siddharth Roy on 14^th Dec after a hush hush affair of nearly an year. The duo reportedly started dating after meeting on the sets of the 2011 blockbuster "No one Killed Jessica". As a scintillating performance in the movie took her career to new heights, it also marked the beginning of a new episode in her life as Siddharth was the producer of the flick. The wedding was celebrated in  Punjabi and South Indian traditions and the sole person from tinsel town spotted at Vidya's Mehendi was Rekha.

Although the wedding of Esha Deol and Bharat Takhtani did not grab much media attention, it ended up being one of the most extravagant occasions of 2012. The wedding took place on June 29 in South Indian style. Though brothers Sunny and Bobby Deol gave it a miss, Abhay showed up along with his girlfriend Preeti Desai.

The son of megastar Chiranjeevi exchanged wedding vows with his childhood sweetheart Upasana Kaminen on June 14 as per traditional Hindu customs in the presence of their families and close friends. The likes of Amitabh Bachchan, Salman Khan and other B-town biggies graced the occasion with their presence.

2012 saw many B-town walas saying 'I Do' and the trend promises to continue this year also as some of tinsel town's most loved couples plan to put an end to all the rumoured speculations surrounding their romantic liaisons, in 2013. Here's a lowdown on the upcoming celebrity weddings.

The chart of upcoming weddings of the-B town is topped by the Nawab girl and her long time beau Kunal Khemu. Soha Ali khan kept her fans playing guessing games about, vowing to tie knot only after her brother gets married. Now that the chota Nawab got hitched, this year is the ideal time for Soha to exchange wedding vow.

After the nuptials of Rani Mukherjee and Aditya Chopra got postponed due to the sudden demise of Yash Chopra last December, we believe Bollywood’s most shy couple will finally seal their relationship after years of courtship this year. Her fans can't wait to hear the good news of this couple exchange wedding vows.

 Although they rubbish all reports of seeing each other, Uday Chopra and Nargis ‘ Rockstar’ Fakri can be spotted together in ways which makes us speculate they are rather using the ‘good friends’ tag to camouflage their relationship. Rumor mills say that the couple would marry in March this year. Well, let’s wait and watch.

Bollywood hunk John Abrahm is reportedly all set to tie knot with an investment banker girl from LA- Priya Runchal. Rumor mills were abuzz that the actor was two timing his ex-girlfriend Bipasha Basu along with his current girl friend Priya Runchal. But its time for John to leave rumors behind and move ahed for a ‘happily ever after’ chapter with Priya. Fans are waiting for the good news.

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It is a universally acknowledged truth that Indians love to conduct and participate in lavish and colorful weddings. In some cases the money spent on weddings in India are close to the GDP (Gross Domestic Product) of small African nations. A wedding thus turns out to be an occasion to display and flaunt one’s family wealth and social status.

At this point a distinction needs to be made regarding ‘wedding and marriage’. A wedding is the ceremony in which two people are united in marriage. A marriage is a state of being united to a person of the opposite sex(?) as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law.

Indian weddings have always been special occasions, celebrated with great zest, fervor and enthusiasm. But as a growing economy pumps new wealth into the country, the festive spirit has been overwhelmed by an ostentatious display of wealth. All these maybe fine for the affluent class. But what about the middle class and the lower section of society? Why do they spend so much on weddings they cannot afford? Why do they spend so much even if it means that they get into a debt they have to repay for years to come.

However, in the very recent past there has been a sincere effort by the Sikh clergy who issued a code of conduct urging Sikhs to eschew expensive weddings. They urged that weddings should be simple, the food, vegetarian, drinks, non-alcoholic and be over in a few hours.

The craze for big, lavish weddings extends to Indians settled in Europe and America. The 2004 marriage of British based steel baron Laxmi Mittal’s daughter, in France, involved 20 page invitation cards, Bollywood song and dance, and five days of events in palaces such as Versailles. In 2006, New York based hotelier, Vikram Chatwal got married in India with festivities spread across three days, three cities(Mumbai, Udaipur and Delhi) and 25 parties

Let us examine the existing practice among Indians in North America and Europe. Owing to the influence of the western tradition, prospective Indians grooms and bridegrooms lay out a relatively structured plan that includes among other things, budgets, schedules and entertainment. Finances are discussed from the moment marriage is mentioned. Indeed money plays such an important role that it is common to hear couples finalizing their wedding date in relation to their economic condition. Money has become such an important part of the wedding process that pre nuptial agreements are becoming a part of the deal.

The Indian wedding market, be it in India or America or Europe, is a huge industry. From designer bridal wear and exotic honeymoon destinations to breathtaking backdrops and evocative photography, a lot of what is out there is simply too hard to resist. Keeping up with the Joneses has never been easy.

So far we have been looking at the aggressive onslaught of the wedding culture. It is now time to do some introspection on ‘marriage’. The success of any marriage is not dependent on how much is spent on flowers, dining, or live entertainment, but rather on the lifelong commitment and dedication of the partners to the union. Although finances play a very significant role, the success of a marriage is not measured in dollars or rupees, honeymoon destinations or real estate investments.

In the end most couples spend countless hours and resources planning their wedding but forget to plan their marriage. No matter how much time and money has been invested in its planning, the wedding offers no guarantee to a successful marriage. Planning a wedding should begin by planning the marriage; wedding lasts only a few hours but marriage lasts a life time.

An Indian wedding is a grand occasion, very colorful and very lavish with a lot of pomp and show. The festivities of the Indian Wedding begin at least a week in advance. The guests, the get together, the music and dance all are a part of this extravaganza.

It is no silent affair. It is one of the most crucial events in the life of every Indian mother, father, daughter, son, brother or sister etc. The word ‘Indian Wedding’ carries a whole baggage of an entire fortune which people long to spend. An Indian wedding is not just a day’s affair. It starts with the hunt for the perfect match followed by celebrations, lasting at least for a week, before marriage.

An Indian wedding is almost like a festival, the festivities and celebrations all around, create an aura of joy and excitement. In such an environment, one’s happiness knows no bounds. Exchange of gifts, greetings is a common sight at an Indian wedding, elaborate preparations are made in the terms food, fun, floral decoration etc.

The bride and bridegroom are adorned with the most precious jewels and attire. The expenditure, pomp and show make it an extravagant affair. Not only the pomp and show but the whole environment at an Indian wedding is bright, colorful and grand.

It is a custom for the bridegroom’s family, relatives and friends to reach the bride’s house in a procession, accompanied by a band, with the groom, riding a mare, dressed like a prince, wearing a garland of Indian currency.

The friends and relatives dance in front of the procession. Along with this, firecrackers are also burst, in frequent succession, adding to the festivities and announcing the arrival of the groom. When the procession reaches the bride’s house, the bride’s family comes forward to welcome the procession with Tilak, garlands and a token gift, usually in the form of money.

Sometimes, it is only the close family members, who are welcomed with money, it is also customary to throw money in the air which is collected by the poor people and men playing the band.

The bride is then brought forward, surrounded by her friends and relatives, for exchanging garlands with the groom. After this, the bride and the groom are seated on a raised platform, on throne like chairs.

All the guests then come turn wise to give their good wishes and wedding gifts. The most important part of the wedding is the taking of vows by the bride and the groom, who go around the fire seven times, amidst chanting of mantras by the priests, in the presence of the guests who are witnesses of this union. When the religious ceremony is over, the bride and the groom are pronounced husband and wife.

The festivities do not end here they continue for another two to three days. The ‘Bidaai’, entry of the bride into the new family, reception, all are occasions to celebrate. In short, an Indian wedding is a rich bonanza, replete with rituals and ceremonies.

The rituals and ceremonies are religious in nature and they bind not only two people but also two families together in a strong bond.

However, they vary from religion to religion, place to place and are inextricably linked with heavy expenditure. Sometimes, people spend their entire fortunes on an Indian wedding and this can decide their fate because many a family becomes bankrupt and the worst part is that even after spending their life’s earnings, on the pomp and show, the couple’s happiness, after marriage, is not ensured.

Why to chosoe online matrimonial services and its role

Internet has been one of the prime inventions of the past century. With the help of World Wide Web and websites one can gain information of all around the world be politics, sports, movies, selecting life partner etc. The internet has made it easy for anyone to access information of any type. People are connecting with others through internet and finding their life partners. Internet not only helps to find right person but also to continue relationship.

In west, where marriage is not a condition for adults to live together, in India wedding is still a sacred occasion and that is why online matrimony services have become so popular. When it comes to any sort of transaction online, be it exchange of personal information or monetary deal, people have certain inhibitions. However, this is not true always. With right knowledge and intelligence, one can find the most reliable source for online transaction. Same is for online matrimonial service as well. There are several doubts which arise when it comes to relying on completely on matrimonial site. But, all matrimonial sites are not scam, and it is evident with increasing popularity of sites. More and more people find easy and convenient platform for selecting one’s soul mate. Matrimonial sites have a huge database of searchable profiles of brides and grooms of various nationality, age, gender, caste, preference etc.

Since Online matrimonial services is one among the free services which goes online, many people visit these sites to utilize the facilities provided. Almost all the online matrimonial services provide free registration to the clients. These matrimonial companies has developed  software’s for selecting a profile with matching horoscope, to view full profile of Bride or Groom, video chat facility etc which makes it more personalized.

 Why Choose Matrimonial Services Online There are several benefits of choosing online matrimonial services,

·         It is the most convenient platform to search for the perfect bride or groom for you, sitting right at your home.

·         According to the online matrimony sites, it is safest and most reliable medium of interacting with a stranger, where it lies completely on your discretion how much want to share your personal information with him or her

·         It is most simple to register yourself online

·          Catering to your particular profile and requirements, you can choose from an extensive range of possible matches for you

·         Matrimony websites provide the opportunity to interact and talk with your desired person online, thus, allowing you to make a definitive decisions based on such interactions

·         Horoscope matching is one of the most important services offered by many online matrimony agencies

·         Matrimonial services are effectively time-saving, with an opportunity to find the perfect match from anywhere in the world.

Among various online matrimonial services, ultramatrimony.com is Ahmedabad based company which caters to serve each and every person irrespective of its caste, religion, gender. It is one of the first companies in the country to launch one stop solution agenda, where one can also ask for wedding planners and honeymoon packages. Thus, three stage of wedding process are done under one roof. USP of Ultra Matrimony is that its low cost. Another unique feature of it is that one can find wedding directory of various cities in India, where all the best shops contact address in the respective places are available on your fingertips. Wedding Directory includes:- Bridal wear, Men’s Wear, Foot Wear, Wedding gifts, Hotels, Photography etc. This helps particularly those who are new to city and want best deal for the wedding.
Ultramatrimony.com promises a superior match-making experience with excellent database, multi-media tools, online horoscope generator and other embellishments like blogs, music and video uploads. Customer’s privacy and security is of utmost important and can be enabled by member. Blogs and other pages help one in planning wedding and leading a successful married life.

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Whenever we talk of Indian wedding, we try to associate it with arranged marriages. Due to the social structure, the concept of arranged marriage is prevalent in the Indian wedding scenario, since ages. On the other hand, love marriages were considered as a taboo among many Indian people, who do not have a modern outlook of life. For them, two people should tie the wedding knot only with the consent of their parents and the blessings of their relatives.

Nonetheless, love marriages are prevalent in almost all the societies of India, given the fact that they are still considered inferior to the weddings arranged by many parents in the country. People supporting the concept of love marriage strongly believe that it is very important to know the partner before marrying him/her. On the other hand, people who believe in solemnizing the wedding with the permission of parents and relatives think that arranged marriages are long lasting. In this article, we have discussed love marriage vis-à-vis arranged marriage.

Pros&Cons:

It is said that compromise is a factor that decides whether the marriage would work out or not. In case of love marriage, people might expect more from their partner, largely because they have fallen in love before marriage. This leads to lesser compromises, as the person expects more from his/her partner. On the other hand, compromise and adjustments form the foundation of arranged marriage, largely because the married couple does not have any preconceived notions or expectations from one another. The compromise factor might work wonders in case of most of the arranged marriages, while in love marriages, that might prove to be yet another cause for altercation. Due to this factor, people consider arranged marriage as long lasting and better than love marriage.

RITUALS ATTACHED TO INDIAN WEDDINGS

INDIA is a place where people of diverse cultures reside. People with different cultures celebrate several festivals following their traditions and rituals. Marriages in India are no less than a festival. People related to bride and groom celebrates the wedding to the fullest and makes it a happening occasion by adding all the colours of joy and happiness into it. A number of rituals are performed as these are believed to be related with the welfare of the Indian Jodi, i.e. bride and groom.

Indian believes about marriage

According to Indian belief ,a wedding is just  not  considered as a matter of one life but it is believed that if once  knot is tied between husband and wife ,the relation lasts for seven lives .But with the passage of  time, Indian society is also undergoing a change where old believes are being shattered away and new ideologies are being accepted. As an example, where in older days, bride and groom could only see each other after their marriage, today they are free enough to choose their life partner on their own.

Though, we can quote a number of examples where Indian society is undergoing a change especially with reference to marriages, but still there are a number of taboos like dowry, which needs to be done away with. Lavishness has always been an indispensable part of Indian marriage and groom’s parents demand a huge amount of money from bride’s family in the form of dowry. People behave as spendthrifts and try to show-off their wealth in every possible way, no matter even if they’ll have to borrow money from available sources.

Colours of Indian marriage

In spite of all such issues, it can be said that Indian marriages are the most attractive ones. The way all the arrangements are made, it seems that one is attending the marriage of a prince and princess. New colourful clothes are given preference by each and every person attending the marriage occasion. For Indian women, jewellery is something that denotes their wealth, so they try putting on new jewels matching their new dresses.

Different marriage ceremonies

Marriages are not just a single day affair in Indian pretext, sometimes it is even extended to one whole week, dividing days for different ceremonies like

o    Roka: It is very first step, which includes formal commitment of marriage and acceptance by both bride’s and groom’s family.

o    Shagun: Exchange of sweets and gifts by both the families involved.

o    Haldi: Cleansing ceremony during which turmeric paste is applied to both bride and groom on their whole body.

o    Ring ceremony: Also known as engagement, it involves exchange of rings between they would be wife and husband.

o    Ladies Sangeet: Women relatives play dholki, sing and dance and add fun elements to lighten the serious atmosphere of marriage. In current day, DJ parties are thrown on the day.

o    Mehndi: Applying henna on the hands and feet of bride along with the husband’s name in it, which signifies strengthening the bond of love.

o    Tilak: This ceremony involves greeting the groom with auspicious vermilion paste and rice by bride’s father.

o    Reception: The first public appearance of the couple together, after wedding where they receive the blessing and gifts from the society and relatives. It is just an extension of the wedding day.

People belonging to different religions have different ceremonies but they are almost the same, only having varied names. From among the marriages performed all around the world, Indian marriages are most glossy and glamorous ones. Though people of different religions, caste and communities follow their own customs to celebrate this occasion but one thing that remains common in all of them is the display of love, concern, commitment and emotions. Every Indian marriage lasts as a memorable moment in thoughts of all those people who attends it.

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Weddings are a tie of new relationships

Weddings are a tie of new relationships. It is something you dream about everyday. In your mind, everything is perfect. You are the princess, he is the prince. You are stunning in your wedding dress. He is majestic and charming waiting for you to join him. Once you wake up you realize:

Where is your PRINCE???

YOU STILL NEED TO LOOK FOR YOUR PRINCE!!

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Once you are engaged. Your wedding day is fast approaching. You are flying high; at the same you're also worried, agitated and scared.

WHAT IS IT??

NOTHING!

We will help you with every little preparation. We understand that the photographers, the band, caterers, wedding hall etc makes you savor that the biggest part of marriage is the wedding. Ultra Rich Match helps in implementing every minute detail and plans strategically as per your requirements. We acknowledge perfection is a Herculean task to be placed on two people that are about to make the biggest decision and commitment of their lives.

But as the magical wedding celebration draws to an enclosure, while it is the end for the guests, it is only the beginning for the couple.

WHAT IS NEXT??

Destination!

We understand your desire for the most exotic and alluring honeymoon destinations. In order to paint your dreams into reality we organize the mesmerizing and righteous destinations for the newlyweds.

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