So,
your wedding day is just around the corner, and you are
hyperventilating? Trust me: this happens to most brides; after all an
Indian wedding is a huge affair. Chances
are that several guests maybe lodging at you place. You might even have
to share your room with cousins. There may be late night events,
pre-wedding parties and get-together. All these can sometimes take a
toll on your health and mental well being. But, keeping a few things in
mind can help you greatly. Here are 8 essential tips
every bride must
know for a stress free wedding:
1) Plan everything to the smallest detail but remember Murphy’s Law:
Anything that can go wrong will go wrong. The key here is to not sweat
the small things out. Relax, take a deep breath and repeat this to
yourself: “I cannot control this situation, but I can certainly control
how I react to it.” Adopt a mantra like this or others like “I am at
peace”, or “I am feeling good”. Such thoughts can help you feel better
about goof ups.
2) Do not always place your wedding guests in the forefront:
It is natural that you want everyone to have a great time at your
wedding, but please do not hold yourself responsible if they don’t’.
After all; you can only please some people some of the time and not all
of your wedding guests all the time.
3) Take an assessment of things you can and cannot handle:
There are always people in your life whom you can count on and delegate
important things to them. But there are things which you need to take
care of, by yourself. So, do make a list of things that are likely to
cause stress and try and avoid them if you can. If needed, take your
parents into confidence and tell them how you feel.
4) Meditate:
Do try and take a few deep breaths every now and then to relax and let
it all out. If possible, go for a short walk, meditate or take a short
nap (if your guests and schedule allows it) when things get too much to
handle. Some calming music or aromatherapy essential oils can also help
you relax and de-stress.
5) Stay connected with your fiance:
If it helps, stay in touch with the groom-to-be. He is probably in the
same (rocky) boat you are in, and when you get a chance, get on the
phone and talk to him.
6) Cut yourself some slack:
It is okay not to be in control all the time. You are feeling jittery
and that is okay too. There may be some underlying issues that you have
not addressed: maybe you are afraid of the lifetime commitment or the
change that is about to come into your life. Talk to a friend who has
been through the same. It is even a good idea to discuss these things
with a counselor.
7) Write it down:
Jotting
down your thoughts and feelings from time to time can all help you
identify the root causes of your anxiety. We often have many emotions
bottled up that we are unable to express. Writing down is a good method of identifying them
8) Pamper thy self:
Go for a relaxing spa, massage or even a facial. Think of these
indulgences as are necessities for staying balanced during this
stressful period.
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